trip to moon ..

Have you noticed you are a pro when it comes to solving problems of others or pro when it comes to solving your either professional or personal problem and totally clueless while solving the other one !

Well this happens with me often and one day it really got me thinking why does this really happen ?

I discovered that when the problem is what I am facing, I would look at it with all baggages attached.. depending upon the situation the baggage could be either emotional, operational, background, attitudinal (din rake my brain for a few more) or may be a mix of these baggages and so the problem takes the size of a huge bully and we run for a corner to hide in or mourn or bail in time to think of a way to out smart the problem.

But someone else comes around asks you why you so upset and you open flood gates to your anguish, and the guy just walks casually smacks the bully and there boom the bully ie problem just disappears !! just like an angel.

That I think is mainly because the angel looked at the problem from heaven, as it is, minus the baggages and hence could come up with a solution. So he / she could give a solution so easily where we are lost.

So things in life are so simple that we fail to notice them maybe because we are use to such complex situations or we complicate things as we know no other way of doing things.

Maybe thats why many distress book talk about “take a break.. go for a walk .. smell the flowers ..”

So now I try solving my problems by first going to moon I.e. looking at the problem for what it actually is minus my baggages and then solution finding becomes easy and not only that I also manage to find alternate solutions.

So next time you have a problem... just hop and move to moon.. solution will be there once your back from your trip :)




found this interesting quote by Albert Einstein which very much says it all

Any intelligent fool can make things bigger and more complex... It takes a touch of genius - and a lot of courage to move in the opposite direction.

thanks nishant !

ever since I have started blogging, I have always erged people dear to me to read them. Of course some had to comply because of the under hand techniques I used, some are tough nuts whom I yet have not cracked (to be read as family members !!) but I was really touched by my friend Nishant's gesture.

Well he I guess is the only person I know read all my blog posts till date as he had promised me he would do so. Thanks a lot buddy.

We may not talk to each other everyday, we may not always share our worries, we may not agree on most things yet we would be there in times of need.

Guess thats what human relations are all about. Connecting without connections !

look out for the jasmine

today i and dexter were off on our evening walk,two middle aged house wives were walking behind us, seeing dexter relieve himself they started expressing loudly how much they hated pets as they dirtied the surroundings.

Well I was pretty miffed at their attitude, not because they said they did not like my precious Dexter but because they were using a very uncool tactic of expressing their distaste or distress if it amounts to that.

I thought to myself, these would be the same people who would throw waste outside their house to keep their interiors clean (I am taking the liberty to assume this :)) but come on its a fact.. many do that.. then i thought atleast waste Dexter throws is bio degradable. Just that moment i thought i had a brilliant case here and would love to hear them respond to it..

But Dexter all of a sudden started running and i gave up all thoughts of confronting the ladies (honestly speaking i would not if i had a chance!) but at that time i mentally told those ladies that they can thank their lucky stars and dexter even more now ;)

All of a sudden Dexter ran towards a bush of jasmine flowers and then pow ...the smell of it totally changed my state of mind.. Itl was so heavenly i felt i was in a different world and at peace.Me and Dexter just stood there soaking in the heady fragrance..

Then i thought to myself, in life we will get triggers and balms which diffuse situations, i guess its up to us whom to welcome in our lives to make it more beautiful. Simple decisions like holding on to the balm and letting go of the trigger points would bring about quantum changes in our lives and yet we get so perplexed with the little rough waves that we miss out the bigger picture and fail to see the obvious path ahead.

With this enlightenment off we went Dexter and me hopping .. running... walking... staring and leaking (the last two applies to dexter alone :)...

jack of all trade .. master of ONE

a friend of mine forwarded me a piece of "Gyan" as he calls it ..

edited version is as follows

an eagle, rabbit and fish go to a school. each had to excel in 2/3 courses taken, 3 courses were flying, running and swimming. Obviously each could excel in only one and got demotivated.

moral of the story: focus only in what you excel

well in today's scenario we need master one skill for sure but we also need to have a working knowledge of many other things. Its just not that competition is getting tougher but also we as humans are evolving, kids are smarter than their parents, so really cannot stick to old analogies any longer and i feel analogies just restrict your flight, who knows what is the limit for each individual ? Definitions always tend to restrict the wonderer, boundaries tend to curb the possibilities, we need to always stretch the horizon, be thirsty for more and look beyond the obvious.

More people are creating a niche for themselves and that is because they know where their skill lies and second they have ensured they create a demand for the same !

so today according to me the mantra for success is by all means be jack of all trade as it will get you places only after you have mastered ONE..

learning to unlearn !

today i had gone to a Bengali singing competition, where i had to announce the names.. i pride myself that my Bengali pronunciation is not tampered but the moment i started trying to speak 100 % Bengali, it was difficult and that is when i realized i gotta improve. My Bengali vocabulary was rather limited and fluency was restricted.

When i was analyzing my flaws i was amazed to hear non Bengali kids with fantastic Bengali pronunciation singing Bengali Nazrul Geeti. The ease with which they were singing a whole 3 minute song really was commendable. I have always ensured that my spoken English does not have any Bengali swing to it and now here when i had to speak out names written in English with Bengali pronunciation i was lost !

So here started my voyage to unlearn the English was of pronouncing Bengali words when speaking in Bengali. All of a sudden my sweetest language in the world Bangla became a tongue twister. But i guess i will survive through this predicament and do some more comparing in Bengali.

Friendship – the titanic

Friendship is a relation which is always a subset of some other relation. For example if a parent and off spring relationship has to be successful, they need to be good friends. Like wise take up any relation and it requires the steady foundation of friendship, be it a couple, mentor- pupil, boss- subordinate, two colleagues, siblings and the list is every increasing.

Well I find it mind boggling. Friendship in one hand can be the foundation and the cement to any relationship and yet it alone very vulnerable.
Many a times this gigantic ship just sinks. People change, circumstances change and our approach to them change.

So is friendship without a relationship a vulnerable ship ?
Today when we look with jaundiced eye at any relationship and say every single one of them has lost its charm, does friendship stand a chance ?

According to me, there is too much randomness in the world since time immemorial and if you average them out, then things are on a larger canvas the same.

Earlier there were war, now just add nuclear to it, earlier we had romances, just add multiple to it, earlier there was bigotry, thank god that remains the same, earlier there was hunger for power, now just add super power, earlier there was cholera, now we have aids, I could add in more egs, but I believe in brevity !

So I guess friendship too as a relationship has not changed much, now too we form alliances to meet our mutual objective and once the goal is reached, we break away if that was the only thing binding us. But during the phase of friendship, if we develop another relationship then alone does it lasts.

Have you noticed how work colleagues when they are in the same organization are great buddies but once, either of them change work place, the friendship takes a back seat, that happens with your school or college friends too.

So if a friend has to last it has to be a foundation of a new relationship or bound by a mutual need or complementary need.

dexter my rescue ranger again !

During the 5 days of Ganapati puja, my entire family is vegetarian, including me and dexter. These are the most difficult days for dexter as he believes in non veg protein diet only. So we really have to cajole him to eat the paneers, kheers made with sugar free and the doggie treats but the sweetheart that he is, he would go through his plight with dignity. In case you are wondering who dexter is, he is my almost 5 year old Labrador.

So once we came back after the immersion of our lord, we were sad seeing our little temple still full of lights and beautiful orchids empty. But then dexter as usual came to our rescue.

The moment he smelled the egg ma made for him as we could not buy chicken at night, Dexter started dancing. He finished his dinner in a nanosecond and was hankering for more. When he had his heart's full of the eggs he started clowning around as though he had won mr universe crown. Doing his parades, showing off his victory as once again he ruled our lives as the non veg god ! And we all forgot our sadness and started narrating our favorite dexter story !

I guess he is one of the most wise and endearing personalities I have encountered in my life. Long back I had read this article on stories about pets uncanny nature of knowing the problems of the family which then sounded bizarre. At that time I was totally terrified of dogs as I could not get over the fright poor stray dog had given me. But today I know that poor guy was more terrified than I was.

Today I stand testimony to the fact that pets really make your world rock, either ways, make us sick with worry and apprehension when they are unwell and bring happiness with their antics and give our life a new meaning. Their total helplessness and complete faith in us makes me really go all sentimental as I know this kind of complete trust we humans as babies show only have it for our mother.