Yesterday I was at the delhi airport waiting for my luggage, to my surprise our luggage conveyor belt was the same as that of indian army flight from leh. I had never met army jawans and it was a pleasure seeing a plane full of them.I just wanted to go and tell them how proud we are of them but was feeling a bit shy and just then a guy went up to them and said the same. It made things real simple for me.. I just tagged along with this guy and shaked hands with the jawans and said its a honor to meet them in person.They were a bit surprised at first and them gave me a warm smile that I still cherish. In fact I also got to have a little chat with a man who was older and more than happy to chat..I guess it always takes this little push or nudge from some invisible force for us to do something we want to but dunno bout the consequence or are too chicken to start with..am really happy that the guy took an initiative and I followed him !!
I was in an auto yesterday and a beggar girl came with incense sticks to sell to me, I told her to go ahead. Once the auto moved I realized my folly. I never give money to little children or women or men who seem like cons, its only the elderly that I feel are helpless and hence begging. I also feel these kids / men / women should do some job .. sell some thing instead of begging.. And yesterday I had an opportunity to follow my preaching and I let go of it .. I should have bought the incense sticks.. well today I hope the girl is still there at the signal and people like me realize our folly and buy the incense sticks and let a person get out of the vicious trap of begging and lead a life full of self respect and pride !!
Like I had said, I would write about the common traits in women too .. but here I aint letting out the big secret..well coz there aint one.. I find it hilarious when women go ballistic about men not understanding them and men when they say women are impossible to understand !!we are very expressive creatures .. it should not be difficult guys for you to figure us out .. but of course all the trick lies in how u handle us .. always remember there is an invisible “Handle with utter most Care” sign in case of women, coz if damage is done, one lifetime is too less to pay up for them !! no kidding there eh !! :panyways here we go ..# we love to talk.. perioddonno why researchers spend time / money / energy to prove universal truth# we believe in fairytaleirrespective of age / culture / upbringing .. dolls & fairies always have a special place in our lives# we believe we can change the man / men in our livesand we spend our entire life chasing this illusive dream !!# we are much stronger than U thinkwe might cry seeing a sad movie, laugh at a stupid gag as per men.. but when it comes to standing up to a situation .. we have much more grit n courage than most men !!# we dont like Mathsits too boring !!# when we say this .. we mean .............No = NO !!live with it or move on !!I wish you would do this = you better do this or you are dead meat buddydo I look fat (ya its a cliche!!) = I know I am looking fat but I want you to lie and tell me you love me inspite of this and make my day !!nothing = my world has been torn apart !! & I am dieing to tell you the gory detailswe need to discuss = > you are in serious trouble buddy# most potent stimulus = Chocolateaint matter how old we get, how much we deprive ourselves to be in shape but this is poison ... however bugged we might be.. give us that and we change in a jiffy !! and whoever said women were difficult to please !!# emotions .. always extremeholds true for most women... we dont believe in moderation when it comes to emotions.. we give it all and when we stop... its forever !!!# we are unique ...never compare a women with another.. we love to believe we are the only one of our kind .. no we dont feel vain about it .. coz thats the fact !! else we are in for that discussion !!! :pI cant end without penning a few words on the women I have known all my life, my mother is the quintessential women for me.. she gives so much to us, she is always there to take care of us inspite of the hurt we instill to her, she cries when she sees our pain but bears her's (pain) silently without letting us know. She will fight the entire world inspite of her puny self so that we are sheltered and safe. But she will melt the moment she sees us smiling and happy.. her jokes and yapping makes our lives lifely and how much ever we may crib she is our daily dose of entertainment with her narration of daily antics around the house.. some day I wish I can be like her ( in certain ways only !! :p)Guys we may be not too gunk ho on the facts like you & let emotions rule us but we definitely God's best creation .. and I have Nuthing to say to men who dont agree with me !!( Beware these guys : you are in for a big email on this topic !!)
after missing my flights a couple of times, I have this habit of reaching airports early.. a bit too.. so I have spend quite a bit of time at most airports just gazing around.. its really wonderful.. so many different kinds of people at the same place at this moment and the next .. they would be thousands of kms away from each other .. maybe never meeting again ............ and may be they would meet at a different airport......i observe people here in luxury.. its fun.. you see so many interesting species here... some with the entire family going on a family vacation or some family occasion make the air around them too so festive that you so wish you were part of that warm family feeling of togetherness.. then there are these “oh we are so much in lub” couples.. all starry eyed about the trip they are gonna embark upon.. full of expectations and a bit scared of the uncertainty in lieu of future.. it makes me wonder of what lays ahead for me.. will I too act so gooey, well the thought of gooey mush sends a disgusted shiver through my spine right now .. but then you never know ..i too might join the band wagon...then there are these little ones on their first voyage.. they are like kangaroos.. jumping from one place to another.. the airport.. their new jungle to discover.. they find such amazing ways to entertain themselves.. the lounge chairs their jumping ground.. the dust bin back.. their favored hiding place.. the elevator their slip... and their parents totally clueless of their next move.. running frantically after them.. these little monsters really ensure that their parents have more than their hands fullthen there would be the senior citizens.. its wonderful to see them.. dignity and grace personified ... many a times I have had the good fortune to talk to a few.. they always have a kind word to say and wisdom to impart..even this time I met an old uncle who was the only one who bothered to ask me if I was alright when I was throwing up in the flight.. the business travelers like me.. they are broadly of two types.. 90 % of them males.. type one the geek.. lost in his gadget world .. not programmed to recognize human prototypes.. and the others.. the marketing herd.. always ready to strike a conversation, always bubbling with curiosity.. they would know which food stall has awesome stuff and the nearest cloak room !!then there would be these young groups going together on a vacation .... I always envy their air of carefreeness, their boisterousness, their innocence ..... life has not yet begin for them .. so kids have fun till it lasts... he he .. bitchy eh.. ya but I really miss my care free days and I never board an aircraft then !!then there are these lone travelers.. you donno why are they traveling .. looking at their age, their attire .. I make wild guesses about their reason when I am totally mentally lost !!ya airports are a wonderful place .. it is from where our journey of life goes places .. literally.. it might bring in joy.. it might cause pain.. it may be necessary and it make be a mistake.. it may be meeting your fate.. it may be the height you should have reached long back.. it may be the retribution.. it may be an adventure .. it may be coming home.. it may be finding new home.. it be the only thing left to do.. it may be the right thing to do.. it may be your last ... but then you have to still embark on it to find that out...................
i have come to a reliance web world in chandigarh and was doing some surfing when i hear a lady reprimand her co worker telling her not to talk like a girl and work like a guy..it brought a smile on my facei really admire the way woman can be candid about most issues and discuss the same.. the men in my life other than dexter are totally non expressive !!my brother or father still think its real macho to hide their problems untill its taken the proportion of Hulk and then they come to us (meaning me and ma) for solution ... phew !!i have always tried to teach my bro that its not macho to not cry but just the opposite (only metaphorically speaking !!! ) but like most men .. he too has n't got the deep rooted meaning behind it..i have noticed certain common traits in most men i have encountered / interacted / known closely / known casually / dint wanno know but destiny was more adament / knew indirectly / dieing to know (george clooney tops that list!!) / loved to know .. # never ask for direction even if that means running in the jungle with a cheetah following them !!! grrrr# never really grow up ... as kids its playing cricket.. as youngsters its chasing cars ... as oldies its commenting on whichever game they watch...........winning some silly game still rocks their lil boat !!! grow up# they hate shopping .. only because we love it and they dont have taste for finer things in life !!!(only exception i met till date is my colleague mr pai..it took me 31 years to meet this exception !!!!!!)# pig headed = machowild = machosensitive = gay in pain -> alcohol in tension -> ciggi nervous -> crack a pj and laugh .. whats more .. expect others to laugh toooooo!!!!???hot body -> only stimulus required ..their dictionary & sop baffles me !!!#Yeh Dosti hum nahi todengethis is one thing i love about them and they really mean it...any thing fo a friend.. most women dont do that ... well but whats best is .. women know this and better and accept their man, bros, bfs, sons with all this and still humour them so well that men still live in this lil haven of theirs .. happy !!PS i am not a feminist.. only a realist ... comming shortly is a post on common traits of women too ...
today someone behaved in a way i dint expect the person to behave.. i was hurt and angry and was full of many other not so good emotions.. but at the end of the day i realised i really am looking at the closed door...in life we learn from bitter and not so sweet experience that "what not to do" or "how not to be".. which is a valuable lesson in itself.. so here is the other door that opened ... i am enlightened ..but why is there so much pain when there is learning in life.. why aint life's learning as easy as classroom's ? why does always time come to the rescue to ease pain and is happiness an eternal pursuit ? why is loneliness always the compainion of pain and the world of happiness? why does lie, diceit and malice win the battles inspite of truth, value and integrity win the war? why does a door have to close and then a new one opens ? why doesnt one door lead to the other ?why do we hurt ourselves by allowing others to affect us and yet be in love with our tormentors ? why inspite of repeated failures we hope that we will bring in a change ? why do we never get to see the bigger picture and feel left out in the movie of life ? why do we get boggled with the same things inspite of our resolutions ?is this the undauntable spirit or is it fool's paradise ? time alone .. the storyteller .. will tell our saga ...
monday blues always are painfull.. but they get worse when you had a long weekend.. i tried the whole day to feel good by remembering my weekend .. snoozing most of the time... once i was done day dreaming bout my long weekend .. i started asking others bout theres... usually i had nice stories like went out of town.. went for shopping... blah blah.. when i called my printer up for a job and asked him bout his weekend .. he said the whole week was bad.. his story really brought me out of my slumber ..he is a young kid .. was driving his bike to work and a lady driver with a learner sign hit him and ran off.. his right part of the body is completely fractured and will take about a month to recover !!so many hit and run cases happen .. and like most cases.. the victim is so hapless that he / she wont be in a frame of mind to memorize the vehicle number... but do these tormentors go scot free ??dont they care to know if they brutally murdered someone innocent ?? is conscience just a word in the dictionary ? how easy is it for them to forgive themselves ? and does god just lets such people be happy and safe in their little selfish world ? but i must say the way bhavick was just matter of factly stating what happened to him amazed me to see how easily he accepted what has happened to him without getting too upset about it..i guess from where he stands.. thats the best thing to do.. accept that it happened to him ... it could have been worse .. but will he forgive the brutal lady ?????i guess not !!it really takes a brave heart to open up and accept one's follies irrespective of the size of them.. especially i see it at work ... the passing of buck.. the never owning up.. it leads to such bitter taste and even worse work environment...wish there was a magic broom to sweep away the malice and mall practise from the society... calling harry potter !!!!
